Thursday, August 26, 2010

Link Thursday: What He's Judging You On...

Hi everyone

Coming up from my assignment cave to get a breather and some semblance of sanity from the blog. Wait a sec, you might say - she means there's sanity here? On her blog??? *grin* Welcome to my world, peeps!

So what is this article about? Basically the vibes you could be giving off without realising. It doesn't go in depth about non-verbal cues, but amazingly, it tells about 'little' things around us or that we do that spell a lot to guys.

Maybe your heroine is guilty of these. Maybe your hero needs to think like this and observe.

To me, it is such articles that allow for on-the-dot characterization and proper coming-across of people.

The article appeared on one of my fave haunts - MSN Love and Relationships webpage, and I caught it around the end of May, 2010. Unfortunately, no author name is provided to allow for credit.


What He's Judging You On

Right or wrong, guys form immediate opinions of you based on some rather unexpected criteria. Here are four seemingly small things that can tell him volumes about you.

When a guy first meets you, he knows you are on your best behavior and will be for a while, so he's looking at certain characteristics that give him quick insight into what you'd be like with your guard down. Here, four things that tell him more than you think.

1. Your Friends
You can work your butt off to come across well — hot outfit, big smile, witty conversation — but you can't do the same for your friends. Dudes know this, so if you're out with pals, men look at them as representatives of all your personality traits — including the not-so-good ones. "I met a girl who seemed sweet at a bar. We chatted, and she invited me to hang with her friends," says Stan, 26. "Within 10 minutes, I realized they were all gossipy drama queens, and I bolted." If your buds aren't on the same win-him-over page as you are, head to your own corner of the bar.

2. Your Laugh
Guys pride themselves on being funny, so they look for girls who can appreciate their sense of humor. However, there's such a thing as laughing too much. "I went out for drinks with one girl who cracked up at everything I said, even if it wasn't funny," says Adam, 27. "It got on my nerves so much that I made an excuse to leave early."

3. Your Drink of Choice
It doesn't matter whether you choose wine, beer, or a cocktail. What matters is that you have a compelling reason for choosing the type of drink ... and wanting to get totally wasted doesn't count. "One night, I met a girl who really appreciated beer," says Joey, 27. "When she explained why she prefers an IPA over a pilsner, I fell in love." Being able to defend your choice shows that you're smart enough to know what you like.

4. Cell-Phone Usage
You're having a great convo with a guy when you get a text. What you do next — ignore it or write a response before putting the phone on the table so it's easier to get to next time — tells him how you'd treat him in the future. "I met a girl at a coffee shop, and within 15 minutes, her phone rang," says Seth, 33. "She just let it go to voice mail, which made me feel like, at that moment, I was her first priority."


Pretty eye-opening, innit?

Use this up when you're creating your next hero!

From Mauritius with love,



JC Deacons said...

This was funny! I might just have to use some of this in the next contemp. I write.


Unknown said...

Pretty cool article. I really do believe the point about the beer :-D

Sandy said...

I believe all of it. I'm married to His Ronness. lol

The part about the cell phone is common curtisey. You know men have their egoes to consider. lol Focus on the man if you want him. Wink!

Good post, Zee. Glad to see you're still here.


Zee Monodee said...


Glad you could drop by! Lol, yeah, the tips are pretty inetresting, innit? It's always nice to learn stuff from the 'real' people out there so we can portray more realistic characters.

Thanks and big hugs!

Zee Monodee said...

Hey Angela

Lol, I totally understand the beer thing! I've known people who have hooked up over why they chose this football team over the other (and surprisingly the bloke wasn't a total immature football fan!).


Zee Monodee said...

Hi Sandy

Yes, sometimes the man you're with opens your eyes to such guy-decoding-behaviour!

Lol, I'm still here, managing the blog among other things, as usual. :)


Chicki Brown said...

Sorry I've been scarce lately, but you understand, right?

Just caught up with your posts this morning.

Hope you enjoy your weekend!

Zee Monodee said...

Hey Chicki

Lol, completely get it, you up-and-coming new pubbed author, you! :)

Glad you could drop by still. Have a great weekend too, luv.